Guide and Discipline Children with Love and Respect

 

Guide and Discipline

 

            The topic of how we discipline children is one that is very near to my heart and something that I wanted to touch on. It is no secret that when parents can get very frustrated with their children at times, there comes a point where unjust discipline comes into play. What I mean by unjust discipline is that some parents will resort to hitting their children to send a message or will verbally abuse them by calling them names or belittling them. Some parents are under the impression that it is okay to hit a child, in the way of a spank, to send a message and others feel that it is completely inappropriate to hit a child in any circumstance. I am going to be sharing my thoughts on this today and hopefully you will feel a better sense of why I am against hitting the child or talking down to them to make a point.

            One of my favorite stories from this semester in school talked of a mother that wanted to discipline her four or five-year-old son for doing something particularly bad. She didn’t believe in spanking or hitting children for that matter, but what her son did finally upset her enough to push her over the edge. The mom asked her son to get something similar to that of a switch for her to hit him with to teach him a lesson. When the boy came back, he instead came back with a stone because he could not find what she had asked. With tears in his eyes he expressed that he could not find a switch and handed her the rock to hit him with instead. This broke the mother’s heart. She realized that her son knew she was going to hurt him regardless, so the reading stated the child’s point of view, “if my mother wants to hurt me, then it makes no difference what she does it with; she might as well do it with a stone.” The mother could see the fear in her son’s eyes and remembered that fear and physical violence should never be the answer to teaching a child a lesson.

            Have you ever taught your child a lesson by spanking them? I know that I have. I’ll tell you what I gained from it. My children thought that if they saw one of their siblings doing something wrong that it was okay to hit them, because they had known me to do the same. Even though my spanks were not in any way violent, my children didn’t view it that way. When they went to teach their siblings a lesson, they did not hold back like I did. Instead they got aggressive towards one another. In Psychology Today, Denise Cummins Ph.D. explained, “When a parent tries to get children to behave better by hitting them, that parent is telling them that hitting people who are smaller and weaker than you is an acceptable way of getting what you want from them.” I have seen this truth firsthand, and when I asked my child why they did it, it was because they said that I have done it.

       

      I love the scripture in Doctrine and Covenants 121:41-46. It really helps us to understand how we should be disciplining our children with love instead. Sometimes we have to be stern with our children, which is completely fine. But the scriptures teach us in Doctrine and Covenants 121:43 that we should be, “Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost, and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love toward him who thou hast reproved, let he esteem thee to be his enemy.” This powerful scripture teaches us that when we correct our children, especially in a stern way, we should always show them an excess amount of love so that they know we are coming from a good place. The consequence of not showing forth an excess of love is that the child could view you as an enemy or not feel safe around you. Fear can motivate someone to act, but it will never be a way to earn their respect or trust in you. Children need to be nourished in a warm and loving environment in order to reach their full potential and know right from wrong. Remember when you are disciplining your child and guiding them, especially in their early years to do it with love and respect. This is where your lessons will take the most effect on the child in a positive and meaningful way.

 

Lisbet Nilson. "Pippi Power: An Interview with Astrid Lingren." Parenting. October 1992. p. 132.

“This Is What Happens When You Hit Your Kids.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 19 Sept. 2014, www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/good-thinking/201409/is-what-happens-when-you-hit-your-kids.

“Doctrine and Covenants 121.” The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/121.41-46?lang=eng.

 

 

Motivating our Children to do Good

 

Motivating Our Children

 

            This is a blog for all you parents out there that would like to take a deeper look into motivating children and how we can be more effective at it. Right now, I have three children. Each of them handles instructions completely differently, even though two of them are three and are twins. Carter, my older son, is mostly motivated when he feels there is some kind of reward involved. The reward could be something as simple as an object I promised him or maybe have a punishment lifted early. He isn’t exactly self-motivated to follow instructions because he is only eight years old. Paige tends to listen when there is some kind of snack involved, or if you promise to spend time with her and Elaina just wants to be shown love through things such as hugs or snuggles. Every child is unique and should be motivated to their own personal needs, however there is one key factor to all forms of motivation, which will sound cheesy. The number one factor to motivating a child is to love them. According to Exploring YourMind, “Love, as a source of motivation and energy, transforms us into a better version of ourselves.” If you think about your younger years, when are the times that you felt the most inspired and motivated by your parents to do what they ask? Was it when they screamed it at you? Was it when they forced you to do something? For me, I was most willing to obey and follow my parents counsel when I felt their genuine love for me. Every child requires this minimum factor in order to be motivated by a parent.

       One quote from my reading in class this semester really made a lot of sense to me. It said, “When someone tells us what to do and demands compliance, it often results in rebellion to gain control, Children are not an exemption to this experience.” It goes on to say that when we see our children’s reactions to those demands, the reaction will most likely depend on the relationship between the child and the parent. There are so many times I have gotten very frustrated with my daughter Paige because the harder I press her to do something, the stronger her response comes out, “No.” On the flip side to that, Paige is a much better and motivated listener when I treat her with love and respect. Instead of feeling that I am taking away her choice, she chooses my way more often when I express an abundance of love. It isn’t always 100% of the time that my children choose to follow my words when I lead with love, but it is tremendously higher than the alternative of me trying to force a child to do what I want.

         Something that I felt was quite hilarious to think about really is a question that was posed in our class this semester regarding bribes. The question was “Although we understand that bribes only “buy temporary compliance,” why are parents so quick to use them if they don’t truly work in the long run?” My initial thought to this was that because it works of course... When my kids are crying for 30 minutes straight at a time and I need it to end, a bribe quickly motivates the behavior to change. This is obviously not the best way to look at it, because it gives the child a sense that they are going to be rewarded for poor behavior. Dr. Steven Dennis shared a really cool thought about how rewards don’t always have to be like bribes. He shared, “It's important to understand that all rewards are not alike-and all rewards are not bribes. The nature, timing, and size of rewards can make a big difference.” If you think about it, there are rewards you can offer a child, such as teaching them the reward is that they will feel good if they do a good deed. Then, there are rewards such as offering the child a toy or some kind of object that if done too often takes away from golden opportunities to teach your child natural rewards for doing good. I never thought about really delving into the natural rewards of being motivated to obey your parents and choose to be motivated to follow their counsel. Natural rewards include good feelings, feeling the spirit, and typically the counsel from the parent has some kind of reward behind it as well.

Ultimately, what I am trying to get at folks is that we have an opportunity to motivate our children in a positive and inspiring way. Let’s do everything that we can do jumpstart their motivation to do good by loving them and helping them understand that by having a positive motivation for doing good, they will naturally see greater joy in their lives.

 

 

“Love as a Source of Motivation and Energy.” Exploring Your Mind, 4 June 2018, exploringyourmind.com/love-as-a-source-of-motivation/.

“What’s the Problem with Bribes?” Dr. Steve Dennis – College Dean of Education & Human Development of BYU-Idaho. file:///C:/Users/Joshua%20D/Downloads/faml120_document_whatsTheProblemWithBribes%20(1).pdf

Parents - Take Care of Yourself

 

Take Care of Yourself

 

                This semester in college, I had the opportunity to take a parenting class that has been absolutely fantastic. I have learned many different things from the class, including taking care of myself, which I will talk about more later, nurturing the child, motivating them and so much more. Some things that you would think are common sense are actually not. One of the most important things that I learned in this course is that I cannot possibly take care of my children if I do not learn to first take care of myself. Elder Marion G. Romney said, “Teaching cannot come from the unlearned. And most of all, spiritual guidance cannot come from spiritually weak.” I found this quote fascinating because sometimes I get into conversations with other adults about how they raise their kids and how I raise mine and find myself asking, am I or they doing it right? The answer isn’t necessarily that there is a set solid answer, but more closely related to whether we are taking the time to take care of ourselves and learn proper practices to deal with our children.

                                                              

  

                One of the things that really sticks out to me is that if we,  as adults, don’t take the time to learn and deepen our own understanding of principals that we want to teach our kids, then we will have a very difficult time teaching it clearly to them, especially at a younger age. If you aren’t very well versed in a topic of importance to teach your child, then teaching it clear enough for them to understand will become a difficult task and may not even stick in their mind. If a parent wants to teach their child patience, love, respect, or really any other concept of value, those things need to be important and well established in them as well. Think about trying to teach your child patience, and yet you severely lack it yourself. How do you think that lesson would go? If you are trying to teach your child a lesson of hard work, and you aren’t a hard worker yourself then it would likely just annoy them instead of help. That is exactly why parents need to look to themselves first and make sure that they are in check. The Center For Parent & Teen Communication said, “Parents often put their children’s needs before their own, but doing so continuously and without fail does children a disservice…Perhaps above all, we create powerful teachable moments when we expose our children to positive stress management techniques like self-care.”

                Speaking from experience, I have had moments in my life where I let stress rule my life and it completely bleeds over and destroys my effectiveness to teach as a parent. For instance, when I was trying to teach my son not to be so impatient with his little sisters, his response was, “but what about you?” This hurt me a little inside because I knew he had a very valid point. I had let stress overtake me and it was showing that many things my children were doing were irritating me a lot. Below you will find a link to a video titled Parent Self-Care: Taking Time to Recharge. This video is fantastic because it talks about how parents need to be, “Taking care of yourself as kindly as you take care of others.” By nurturing your mental state, you will naturally be a more patient and loving parent to your children. There is no greater motivator than love when teaching a child. A quote from Elder Dallin H. Oaks that I found very powerful goes, “A good teacher, like the Good Shephard we serve, concentrates entirely on the needs of the sheep—those being taught.” We cannot possibly focus on others in this way if we have struggles or needs of our own that are clouding our vision.

                I am so grateful for the opportunity that I had this semester to learn about taking time to take care of myself. My current life situation is that I have a fourth child on the way in November. It is only going to be more hectic and time consuming to take care of all of my children and to make sure they are all taught the proper lessons they need for their maturity level. Not only do I intend to make time for myself, even if it gets more hectic, but I also plan to be me conscious of my specific needs and take care of them. This is what will allow me to be a more successful and uplifting parent.

 

 

Romney, Marion G. “The Celestial Nature of Self-Reliance.” The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1982/10/the-celestial-nature-of-self-reliance?lang=eng.

“Taking Care of Yourself Plays a Critical Role in Effective Parenting.” Center for Parent and Teen Communication, 3 Apr. 2020, parentandteen.com/taking-care-of-yourself-a-gift-to-your-teens/.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EszLfK8lI-g&t=319s

“Teaching with Love.” The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, www.churchofjesuschrist.org/church/news/church-leaders-address-seminary-and-institute-teachers-through-annual-broadcast/teaching-with-love?lang=eng.

Entrepreneurial Journal Final Blog

Ladies and gentleman! The time has finally come to end this semester. I have to say... Hurray! Not because I didn't enjoy the class, but because things have been absolutely bonkers with COVID-19. There are a few questions that I think are really important that I'm supposed to address on here, so I'm gonna list them off and do my absolute best to answer each as meaningful as possible. 

• If you had one final lecture to share with a group of students on what you have learned from this course, what would you share?

      

  First of all, this course was extremely beneficial if you ever do decide to become an entrepreneur. The reason is that it helps you to honestly and sincerely discover what type of person you are and what you want to achieve in your life. Some people start businesses just for money, but usually there are driving factors that help them to achieve the goals they set out to reach. This course breaks down step by step how to at least get in the right direction of the type of entrepreneur your want to be. That, or it will open your eyes and help you decide that living the non-entrepreneur life is more your style. It isn't any wonder that there are a ridiculous number of factors to consider when choosing to take the risk, the leap, or the dive to becoming an entrepreneur. You have to decide if you are going to work with others, what type of business, how you will fund it, what you will do if there are set backs, how to pay your employees and ensure everything is going to be okay even on the downsides. It is a lot to take in really. My lecture would be to take this could because it will help remove a lot of those doubts or burning questions on whether or not being an entrepreneur is for you. 

 

• What would be your last bit of advice to someone wanting to begin the entrepreneur journey?

I would tell them to make sure that they are fully invested in the endeavor, to prepare for failures, and to embrace successes while staying humble. If they aren't 100% invested in making the company run and risking their time on a company that may or may not succeed then it wouldn't be worth starting. If they aren't willing to accept that there are going to be losses and to just push through them, then don't start. When there are successes, don't get over cocky and make sure you are always pushing for excellence, because it can be easy to get blind sided by success. Assuming a person is fine with all of those factors, then they should at least do decent in their chosen market. 

• What words of advice, direction, or caution would you give him or her if you had only one chance to give your own last lecture?

I'm not sure how to respond to this without repeating myself to be honest, but I will give it a whirl. A piece of advice that I would emphasize very heavily is that any endeavor that they choose to think about, involve the Lord. If Heavenly Father isn't involved, you could be missing out on a huge opportunity for yourself and for others. Think of all the times that Heavenly Father has influenced someone to do something great with their gifts/talents. Sometimes gifts/talents they didn't even know about. If the Lord isn't involved then you need to reassess the situation before proceeding. Involve him in ever facet of your life and things will turn out A-Okay, regardless if you pursue being an entrepreneur or not. 

Attitude of Gratitude

This week, I had the opportunity to reflect on gratitude and a case study on an interesting individual named Randy Haykin. I just wanted to share some thoughts on a few things that popped into my head this week as I was going through these topics. 

Currently the world is an absolute mess. People are dying every day due to COVID-19, and many people are losing their jobs. So much bad stuff is going on, which can be debilitating for many. For me, it has been difficult to work from home because my children always want to invade my work space. It has been difficult to be productive and to feel stuck at home (very little social interaction for me, a social butterfly). What I am grateful for in all of this though is that I get to be close to my pregnant wife and three children, though it isn't always easy. I love my family and know that they are the best part of my life. I am grateful to be able to receive the sacrament in my home and feel the spirit, even when we are unable to attend church meetings. I am grateful for my boss who has worked hard on a day to day basis to ensure that our jobs stay secure to take care of our families. I am grateful to know that God loves us and is ultimately going to provide in such a dire time of need, especially if we show our faith in Christ and are prayerful. We are lucky to have such a loving Heavenly Father. 

I wanted to give a quick shout out to Randy Haykin on a few different things. The first thing that I loved reading about is that he set quality time with his family as a priority when he was in Harvard Business School. Currently, I am in school and working full-time. I don't always feel like I have time to spend with my family, but if he could do it t hen I definitely can. The case study encouraged me to review my time management and reflect on how I could be better. Everyone should evaluate their time management on a regular basis to see where they can improve. Nobody is perfect at it. The other thing that I wanted to point out about Randy is that even though he had struggles in his company, he always did his absolute best to do right by his employees and be honest. Some companies are really not too concerned with their employees. I feel that my boss is very much like Randy because I can feel his love and concern for my family in this trying time. I want to encourage all company owners to really think about how they can support their families, but also help their employees to do the same. I pray that each business owner that is struggling right now will do their best to do right by themselves and those who have worked so hard for them as well. 

What it takes to be a hero!

This week I got to reflect on a book I read called A field Guide for the Hero's Journey by Jeff Sandefer and Rev. Sirico. The book is amazing! Honestly, if you are the type of person that has goals and dreams then you should absolutely read it. It not only gives you the tools you need to know how to overcome the road blocks, but how to come out stronger in the end. Sometimes we get in this mode thinking that we aren't good enough or can't accomplish something. We are all children of God, which means that we have infinite potential. If you think that you can't do something, remember that God wants you to succeed, and because you are His child nothing can stop you from achieving your goals (so long as they are pure). Take some time and either get the e-book or just read it because I loved learning about myself, what I want to accomplish, and ways to get there. 

Money Money Money

This week in my entrepreneurial journal, I was presented with three questions to answer. I wanted to share the three questions and break down my thoughts on what I learned and what was shared and hopefully give you something to think about in your own view of the questions. 

• What is your attitude toward money?

      I think that as long as attaining money is not your primary goal in life, it is a completely fine thing to work hard for. Money does a lot of good in the world in the sense that it helps feed the homeless, provide homes, speed up research for cures, relieve others from unexpected struggles such as natural disasters, pay for church supplies and keep the buildings running for a there to be a spiritually safe space for people to worship, and many other things. Money shouldn't be a priority in life, other than to ensure you can provide for your family and keep them safe from the craziness that exists in the world, but again there is nothing wrong with making more money or setting a goal to make more money, especially if you intend to do good with it. 

• How can your view of money affect the way you live?

      Some people view money as the most important thing in life, because they feel it brings them happiness. The problem with thinking this way is that there are a lot of people with that way of thinking that do illegal or shady things to obtain more money. Sometimes money brings out the absolute worst in people, which is why you have to be sure your intentions are pure when you make a lot of money or are working hard to make more. Heavenly Father knows our hearts. He is more likely to help those with pure intentions make more money than those who are making more money and simply stacking on their own greed and pride. 

• What rules are recommended for prospering?

      I feel it is important to note that there are some rules that are for everyone, and other rules that apply on a person to person basis. I am going to list a few that I feel apply to everyone and then some that depend on the person.

 

Rules that apply to everyone:

1. Never let money become more important than your family (spouse or kids at the bare minimum)

2. Be honest in all of your dealings with your fellow man, both in business and personal life. Those who lift up others, will be lifted up by others as well. 

3. Do everything with the intention of bettering yourself and the world around you. When the world around you is prospering because of your efforts, then things typically turn around for your good as well. 

Rules that apply to a person-to-person basis:

1. If you have no family (spouse or kids) to be accountable to, then find a good cause or source to put above money. Money should never be your primary goal, even if you aren't religious or have no family.

2. Not everyone is given the exact same resources to be prosperous. We all have the tools in some shape or form to get there, but the tools change person to person. Find what your available tools are and work with them so long as they are honest and sincere and aligned with the Lords will. 

Entrepreneur Interview Update

I am excited to share that I went through my entrepreneur interview this week, and it went great! I learned some things about starting a company that I had never thought about before. It turns out that the entrepreneur that I chose actually decided to start their business, because the first time they saw their daughter roll over was via a video call and it made him feel that he needed to be closer to home. At the start of making of your own business, it takes a lot of hours to get it off the ground, but once you do, you can be more flexible for family and other important aspects of life. He runs a healthcare consulting company that does very well, but learned some valuable lessons along the way. One of the lessons that stuck with me is that he suggests not running finances in house, but instead putting the liability on a third party company. The first year he started the business, he tried to do the finances in house and ended up getting tax penalties that were quite hefty. This makes sense to me, especially since I personally hate doing anything with finances. It is interesting that every entrepreneur gets into business for different reasons, and it seems one of his main reasons is to be closer to family but also provide for his employees. Speaking from first had experience, my boss does an amazing job running his business because he puts a lot of love and a faith towards his employees. I think that is such an important part about running a company. Too many companies forget about their employees and think too much about less important factors. I loved the advice that the entrepreneur gave about sticking with whatever motivates you when starting a business, because it doesn't help to do something you can't stand. If money motivates you, then use that motivation. If making employees and other people happy motivates you, then use that instead. It is whatever floats your boat and helps you get the work done. This interviewing process has been awesome and eye opening. I'm grateful for opportunities like this in school, because these are the true learning experiences for me. 

Entrepreneur Interview Preparation

Sometimes school is a pain and feels like busy work. This week, I had a really nice experience talking about how I can prepare for an interview with an entrepreneur. This class is all about learning how to master myself and prepare myself if I were to every decide to start my own business. One of the best ways that I can think to do that is to actually talk to an entrepreneur and learn how they started the process from the very start, even meaning how the business became a thought. There are a few specific questions that matter most to me. The first question that comes to mind is how much time does starting the business take away from family. Family is the number one most important thing to me, and I understand that some new business owners are drowned in work. That is not something I am overly interested in, but would love to know how it effected their time management in all aspects of their life. Another question I think would be important to know is what the risk was to them. If you think about it, a lot of business owners take out loans to get things started up, but others are financially backed by family or some other means. I would want to know if they had risk, or if someone took a chance on them to start the business. If there was risk involved, I would like to know what preparations the entrepreneur took to offset them if future problems occurred. I'm grateful for school when I feel like the lessons actually apply to a real life scenario that could happen in my life, and am excited to really get into the interview this week. 

Intro. to Entrepreneurship Interview Preparations!

Good evening everyone!

I am grateful for the opportunity share with you some of the things that I learned about being an entrepreneur this week. One of the assignments that we have to do in class is focus on talking with an entrepreneur in an industry we are interested in. It never really crossed my mind that it would be appropriate to ask someone in the industry for some pointers. The way that I was thinking about it is that I am asking someone successful in my preferred industry how I can become a competitor for them. My thinking wasn't on point in that I wouldn't have to start my business in their region for starters, and even though we live in a competitive age people still want other people to be successful too. If someone were to approach me seeking counsel on how to better themselves for a situation, I would gladly help them out. Between the 8 billion people on Earth, there is an endless pool of knowledge to pull from to increase our capabilities of starting a successful business or even work on ourselves. Heavenly Father wants each of us to share our gifts and talents with each other to make our mortal journey easier. It is a good thing that we are all different, because if you approach someone for guidance, and they have nothing new or beneficial to offer you then this world wouldn’t be near as successful as it could be. From my experience, it is best to make sure all pride is put the side. Whether you are teaching or being taught how to do something, be open minded to the idea that other people were put into our lives for an important reason and they should be treated as such.

Master Your Life!

Hello everyone!

This week I had the opportunity to reflect on George Leonard's book Mastery and The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey. Both books offer advice that anyone can apply in their life to be more effective in reaching their goals and dreams. The habit that meant the most to me this time around was "Think Win/Win." Usually when I am trying to accomplish something or am working on a goal, it is something that I am doing for myself. I love the idea of a win/win situation, because it benefits all parties in a meaningful and uplifting way. Truthfully, it is sad that the world has become so competitive that it seems that win/win situations occur less. I was even more impressed by Stephen Covey’s thoughts on a win/win or no deal situation. A win/win or no deal situation means exactly how it sounds. No deal will occur unless both parties are guaranteed a win. This should always be the case, whether it has to do with personal, spiritual, or even professional matters.

I really enjoyed reading through Mastery the past few weeks because it is a book that not only breaks down the challenges that you face mastering a skill, but ways to do it more effectively. We all tend to make new years resolutions about things that we want to accomplish or skills we want to obtain. The problem is we tend to fall short on those goals. George Leonard offers advice on how to not only find strength to attain mastery in different aspects of our lives, but how to accomplish it as well. If you haven’t read either of these books, they aren’t just for people in school. They are literally for everyone and can legit make a difference in your life.

My Entrepreneurial Self Discovery Journal Entry

Hello everyone!

Yet again, I have the opportunity to share with you some cool insights that I learned from my Intro to Entrepreneurship. This week we got to hear from a couple of speakers that stood out to me. The first speaker, Steve Blank, is talking about the journey to starting a new business. He expressed that it can be soul sucking and very time consuming to start a new company and get it off the ground. If you are single, he said it is much easier to start a company than if you have a family as well. Steve had a family when he started working on his own business, but he wanted to be sure that he had time for them. To ensure he could balance his time wisely, he made a set of rules with his wife and kids specifically regarding how he would handle time management while running the company. It was through his set of rules that his company didn't take over his personal life and time with family. Every entrepreneur should be doing this, because controlling your type is typically one of the benefits of personalized time management of the company. The next person that I wanted to briefly touch on is Wences Casares, founder of Lemon Bank and Wanako Games. He shared an idea that I agree and disagree with. The idea is that if you want to do really well at something, stick with it for a long time. What he meant is that if you are an entrepreneur, don't just give up on what you are working on, but instead stick with it for the long hall. Where I agree is that if the product or project is consistently moving forward in a positive way, then stick with it, but where I disagree is that sometimes staying with something is a bad idea. I work in healthcare contracting, where I contract doctors for health plans. Sometimes they don't want to join the plan I am contracting for, so instead of pursuing a dead lead, I move on to someone new. The same applies to business, in the sense that if you aren't seeing any kind of positive success, then it would be better to spend your time and resources on something different. I'm not saying the product/project has to be completely different from the first, but you don't want to stick with something that is getting you nowhere and using up your time and resources. It is important to really try and find that right balance. 

The Journey of a True Hero

This week, I am pleased to have the opportunity to share my thoughts on a video that I watched titled
"A Hero's Journey." The main speaker was a man named Corey Bell, who basically shares why and how he became an entrepreneur. He starts off by talking about how he worked at several different jobs, but yet none of them made him feel fulfilled. He wanted to be able to serve other people better and felt that the best way to do that would be to risk losing a steady job and starting his own business. Even though it worried his wife, and he ended up having 9 of his siblings live with him, he pushed through  the challenges and became a successful entrepreneur. His main points explained that we can  do anything that we put our mind to, and that the word "can't" shouldn't be used in our vocabularies. Where I agree with Corey is that we are all children of God and with that being said, we all have infinite potential. If we want to start a business, we just have to find the right motivation and make a move. If you don't try then you will fail, but if you try and fail, at least you had a chance for success. Obviously with any entrepreneur, there is always the risk of failing, but Corey points out that there are always a million jobs to go back to if it doesn't work out. We all have to ask ourselves what we want to accomplish in this life, and how we can serve the world around us. Corey's reasons for starting a business may be different from mine, but as long as the reasoning is pure then it is worth trying. The most important thing that stuck to my mind from the video is that Corey points out that the graveyard is the richest place in the world. What he meant is that the graveyard has many people who have passed away that never attempted to live up to the dreams or goals. It is a shame when people with amazing talents and ideas don't share them because it could have been world changing. As you go through focusing on your professional choices, make sure you are doing something that will help you feel fulfilled in the end. There is nothing worse than getting to the end of your life and have a long list of "what if's." You don't want to look back and wonder why you didn't take any risks to achieve the things you wanted most out of life. 

My Life Plan to Deconstruct My Fears!

Good evening all!

This week in my Introduction to Entrepreneurship class, I had the opportunity to think about a really important factor in our lives, which is our fears. Specifically I focused on my fears of what would happen in business scenarios. My fears included the idea of waking up and hating my job, not being able to achieve my dream of producing a screenplay, starting a business of my own and it failing, and finally getting let go of a high end executive job. Each of these fears, at least for me, would have negative impacts on my personal and family life as well as my financial situation. My class was asked three questions this week to focus on, and I am going to share them as well as answer them below:

  1. If you pursue your calling with discipline, intentionality, and the help of fellow travelers, what are the chances that your worst case scenario will really happen?

I think that there is always the chance of any fear coming true; however, when you help others and allow them to help you, it is much less likely that you will fail. Also, if you have a great work ethic and are disciplined to your role then you will typically find success in it. 

2.  As you look at your list of fears, what themes emerge? What is at the core of what you really fear? Financial ruin? The judgment or disapproval of others? Physical harm? Endangering the ones you love? Embarrassment?

The themes that emerge in my fears are usually having to do with the idea of a business scenario going poorly and negatively effecting my family's way of living or their comfort. I have seen many times in my life where bad financial situations have cause divorce or other sad family situations. Each of my scenarios leads to financial struggle. If I were to really break down the core of my fear, it would be endangering the ones I love. What I mean by this is endangering their mental well being and their level of comfort in the home. I never want my wife or kids to feel that they are deprived of basic necessities because of a business scenario that goes poorly. 

3.  What is the risk of taking no action – not following your calling? How do you plan to deal with fear when it pops up on your entrepreneurial journey?

The risk of not taking action or following your calling is that you will likely find yourself miserable in what you do. There are few things worse than working a job that you hate, because our jobs take up 1/3 of our day as it is. It is soul sucking and can negatively impact how we take care of ourselves and the way we treat others around us. In order to overcome my fears on my entrepreneurial journey, I took a step back to first determine what the fears were and then came up with an individual plan for each fear on how to overcome it. There are some fears in our life that are debilitating, and we have to be prepared to overcome them by being prepared with preset plans to do so.  

Education and Career Decisions and Moving Forward With Goals

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This week I gained some really interesting insights that I learned through my Introduction to Entrepreneurship class. The first thing that comes to my mind from the reading this week is the idea of "failing forward" This is essentially the idea that we all fail constantly in this life, but rather than letting those failures beat us down, we should be letting them build us up. Thomas Edison failed over 1,000 times in an attempt to create the light bulb. Currently, the light bulb is used worldwide and is a crucial piece of technology in society. Imagine if he gave up and we still had no light bulb today. It would be horrible. Each of us has goals and tasks we would like to complete in this life. When we fail at achieving them, it doesn't mean that we are done for. We can push through the failures, learn from our mistakes and keep getting one step closer until we reach success; just as Thomas Edison did with the light bulb. It isn't any secret that everyone fails at different things in their lives. It is how we handle those failures that will define our true success in this life. 

The second and last insight that I wanted to share from my learning this week is about a young woman named Magdalena Yesil. At 12 years old, she lived in Instanbul, Turkey with a strong desire to learn about the field of technology. As she approached the end of her high school years, she was prepared with the university options she wanted to attend and did everything necessary to reach her goals. Her first options were IIT located in Chicago, and MIT located in Massachusetts. She chose IIT, not realizing that she would dislike the Chicago region. She still had the passion to learn her craft, but it was important to her to do it in a place that she could still enjoy her life. She decided to turn to Stanford University in California. This would give her a home that felt similar to Istanbul, and still allow her to push forward with her higher education. The point of this story is that there are multiple options we can choose to achieve the same goal. Some of the options are going to make us miserable, some content, and others full of joy. For Magdalena, Chicago helped her reach her goal, but she was miserable. Instead, she moved to Stanford, got the education she wanted and was very pleased with the region. If we aren't happy with an option we are currently accepting, whether it is in our personal, professional, or educational goals, then we should find other options to achieve the same goals and bring us joy at the same time. 

Who is Randy Pausch and What Did He Teach?

This week, I had the opportunity to learn from a unique individual by the name of Randy Pausch. He was a professor at Carnegie Mellon University and was an excellent father and example of diligence to personal goals. The reason that he was able to achieve many of his life goals is because he is a positive thinker. Rather than look at failure as a bad thing, he looks at them as stepping stones. Rather than looking at road blocks as an opportunity to quit, he aims to break them to show how badly he wants to reach his goals. As I pondered what some of my life goals and dreams are, I realized that a lot of them get put on the back burner. Goals and dreams are extremely important in this life. They help motivate us to do something, they give us purpose and something to hope for. The problem is that if we don't prepare ourselves for the failures and road blocks, they will get put on the back burner like mine did. Randy learned early on that if you want to be successful at something, just keep going at it until you have achieved it. Don't think that you are ever too old to adopt this thinking, because even as we get older ,we can still achieve our dreams.
 One of my childhood dreams was to become a screenwriter or an actor. I loved the idea of conveying a message on screen for others to learn from and inspire them. I am 28 years old, and at this point in my life it is very possible to achieve both of these dreams. If I wanted to, I could go online and find a class either on YouTube or Groupon to learn how to write a screenplay. There would be roadblocks along the way, but because I already know that and expect them it wouldn't be too hard to overcome. There are professionals all over the world that do what I want to do. I could reach out and find inspiration from others who have achieved my dream and overcome trials to reach it. Heavenly Father gave us brothers and sisters to help us through challenges and to build off one another. With acting and screenwriting it is all about building off of others. Since I consider myself a person that can build rapport with anyone, and because I am a diligent worker, it would be very possible for me to achieve my dreams. It all begins with just starting.

Entrepreneurial Journal Blog - Week 1 Learnings from BUS 110 College Course

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I am grateful for the opportunity to share some of the things that I learned during the first week of my entrepreneurial class. The first thing that came to my mind when I thought of the word entrepreneurial is the idea of coming up with a business idea and then executing it. It turns out that before you can really be a successful entrepreneur, you have to consider the "startup of you." This means that essentially you are going to figure out what you are all about. There were three questions that caught my interest in the reading this week. The first question is “what is my calling in life?” As I thought about it, the first thing that came to my mind is that I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. It is because of my faith that I first think about my relationship with God and how I want to please him with my thoughts and actions. My calling in life is to try to become like the Savior and in the process help others doing it. So, if I were to be an entrepreneur, I would want to focus on something that could help people beyond their typical needs. I think that is why I enjoy working in the healthcare industry, because it helps people physically and mentally to get through their days. The second question I thought about is “How do I create meaning.” This is a tougher question because it made me think about how I can create meaning in my own home as well as beyond my own family. To be perfectly honest, it is a great question that I don’t have the answer to just yet, but I plan to figure it out before the end of this semester. The last question that I thought about is “How will I measure my life?” I feel as though there is an easy answer to this, and one that works well for me. I measure my life based on how closely I follow the Lords commands, or if I fail, do I remember to repent. If I did my absolute best at the end of the day I feel good because I know that Lord will support me through my failures and cheer with me through my successes.